Wii - that is crazy! She is keeping you in Limbo and "cake walking" for sure. She left the family. That means it is no longer a complete family.
My best advice is to distance yourself further. Spending time in a "mock" family situation is not only very unhealthy for you - it also sends a weird message to your girls. They are most likely struggling enough with all this.
You will never move forward as long as she is keeping you on a bit of a leash. You need to make a vacation plan with the girls on your own. One that does not include their mother. She sounds like one very controlling woman who wants 2 men. My guess is that she is extremely insecure and will likely end up with No One!
