SIL1 dropped the kids off (gee what a surprise! ) Said that H wanted to get an early start to go to OW so she told him she would bring kids back. Since we've been playing phone tag, she wanted a chance to chat with me a bit.
She said that H has not bathed in weeks, and has been only going to school when he feels like it. She thinks he's waiting until funding for 2nd half of schooling comes in and then he'll leave for good to OW. Said she doesn't think he is doing well at school (I guess you have to show up to do well, ya think?)
She said that the same day that H took out the most money from our joint account, he also borrowed money off of her and her husband without each other knowing it. Said they are so fed up with his antics and disrespect. I told her to let him go then and not try and convince him to stay.
She's angry that he broke his promise to me to give me all his pay in exchange for living with her rent free. I told her I was doing okay as I didn't include $$ from him in my budget planning. That I anticipated him not giving me $$ at some point due to his unstable actions.
I know I'll be fine one way or the other as I am trusting life's flow now and not trying to orchestrate things the way I want (I didn't say that to her as she still tries to orchestrate )
She said that he's taken a week off of his part time job for this trip and is paying for the trip through his last pay, that he finally did get in cheque form.
He also rang up her long distance to over $350 in one month talking to OW. So now OW is calling him as SIL told him he couldn't call her anymore. She doesn't anticipate seeing the $$ from him anytime soon.
Her H is a pretty good backyard mechanic and very generous with his help. He told Hubby if he keeps choosing to take the long trips in his $500 get around car, to not call him for a tow if he gets stuck. Hubby, being the OW addict he is, of course won't listen. (Car currently needs brakes and a few other things done.)
My friend who has some empathic ability said she had a vision of H getting stuck in the other country and calling me to bail him out. She said that I did and he started treating me badly again as soon as he got back. I'm not sure if it will come to pass, but it did get me thinking...
Hard time sleeping last night.
I never thought I would ever have to sit by and do nothing as my husband went for a week's fun with another woman.
But I know it has to play out to the end...
It still hurts something fierce though.
~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~
My Sitch in MLC - http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Main=45253&Number=1901148#
) Said that H wanted to get an early start to go to OW so she told him she would bring kids back. Since we've been playing phone tag, she wanted a chance to chat with me a bit.
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