thanks Puppy. I agree. He tried calling me yesterday four times...and then two text messages. I didn't respond. Then I received a text message saying that we had to reschedule going to the bank today. I responded 'why'? He said that we have to sit down and discuss things. I told him there was nothing to discuss and that my name must be on the account. He said that we really need to talk.. I said 'no'. He asked me what changed and I didn't respond. It felt good to just ignore him.
I am not sure if this should make me feel better or worse.. but it just makes me angry right now. His mistress is such trash. His mother told him that she would never be accepted and that he is to never bring her around. His sister told him the same. I know it is ego.. but I cannot believe I am in competition with this garbage.
She has had an affair with another married attorney in his office!! she has two children out of wedlock...interracial. She has never been married. She just foreclosed on house with xboyfriend (who has 4 kids with 3 different mothers). I hate competing with such trash!!!
His mother also told him that he was acting like a 13 year old. He is miserable and depressed. He looks dirty and unkept. His hair looks ridiculous. My mother in law couldnt take anymore and needed to open her mouth. His response was to pretty much mind her own business if she ever wants to see her son. He is risking his career (was told not allowed to date in the office).
This is not the man that I married...or maybe this was always the man that I married and I just didn't see it. I don't even like him right now..nevermind love. I am sure it is some sort of midlife crisis..he has isolated himself from friends and family. But don't I need to walk away from this with some dignity? I know this is a divorce busting website..but could I really have a normal life with him after this? Will he really change? I think I do need to call the shots now because I haven't in so long.. but I am not sure if silence is the answer.. I think I need to take action. Him asking for 3 additional months to see OW just put me over the edge.. I have tried to remain patient and see if his fog would lift... been the bigger person..but his selfishness is too much.
