HB....You DID answer my question, only not until much later, and I apologize for my question being so cryptic....
Originally Posted By: HeartsBlessing
I know it to be true, regarding myself, as I WAS THERE at one point in time, experienced a few things I didn't like at all, had to face reality, no holds barred, concerning things about me, my life AND yes, my marriage. A mirror was thrown up in self-reflection; only then was I able to pin point MY problems and fix them. I reached the realization during this journey of mine that I would be fine REGARDLESS of whether my marriage made it or not.
Originally Posted By: HeartsBlessing
Marriages end within MLC, some are rebuilt, some end; new beginnings are created; and with them, new feelings regarding ourselves and the LBS will gain a sense of "starting over", regardless of what happens. In a sense, the LBS comes to an Acceptance of sorts; not much different than the MLC'er does.
The marriage AND life as you saw it ended the day you discovered the MLC'er went into the tunnel. And it's an opportunity(if you will come to see it that way) to discover what YOU want out of your life.
MY prompting for the question is....
Although understanding MLC is a must....
The journey for the LBS is where the focus should lie in a stand. NOT where our MLCer is at in their tunnel.
Focusing on the MLCer, and wallowing in their misery, can keep the LBS evenmore stuck than their spouse.
When you were here before, and a lot of your old posts seem to be gone now, you were an advocate of the path that the LBS must walk.....
A lot of people see you as a success because your marriage was "saved".
What they don't realize is.....without YOU walking your path, there would have been very little hope of building something from the ashes of your old marriage. ( unless the archives lied )
And I think.....
THAT subject is the one that has been lack ....
Your Stages, have been read and passed ( at least suggested) to all that enter this site .
The disclaimer, has been missed by MANY about the timeline.
I ,personally, thank you for each of those.
Each of our journeys are equally important through this...
The only journey WE can do anything about....Is our own.
