Hi Ken, it would really help us if you could stick to just one thread for a while, okay? It is hard to keep track when there are more than one.

IMO, you should not have asked her for a date night. That is extremly pursuing......and especially when in the process of spliting up. When she wanted space from OM, you saw that as an opportunity to move in. Bad mistake. Keep away from her. You can't be "dark" if you are contacting and seeing her. She is not ready to have any dates with you. Don't mean to sound hard, but that's just how it is. She has to sort her feelings out about OM and what she is going to do at this point in her life. If you are applying pressure (like wanting a date night) that is going to backfire on your big time.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!