Forrest, We are not IN love with each other. We love each other, I think, but not IN love with each other. We feel more like family members living in the same house.
When I express my hurt, he hears attack, when I express my sadness, he hears threat. I am careful when I talk but it seems he is walking on eggshels SOOO bad and he EXPECTS me to be nusty that overlooks reality, which is, I am ONLY communicating my struggle to him.
Of course I have to admit that I am not consistent, I am negative one week, postive the next, he doenst know what to expect and knowing him, he HATES that, it throws him off balancee. He likes predictable things. I like being more consistent too. That's what I have been doing since he left for S. Africa, 2 weeks go. So far it seems to be going better.
Sex card sounds familiar? I have NEVER used the sex card with him. Not that I remember, I missed your point.
I know that between men and women we have to allow the different forms of expressing emotions, thoughts etc etc. I get sometimes stuck to the notion "if it were me I would have done so and so...". I keep reminding myself that's not the way it works... K
