That's nice that you had a pleasant evening together. i suggest that you go ahead and divorce her, and if you want to date her, and be one of the men she is with, that's fine. But the passive aggressive hit on your birthday was no mistake. She will continue to swing back and forth on this pendulum, trying to keep you as a safety net while she also plays the field. From what I've read from you up to this point, I don't think that is what you want. So I suggest you take her up on the divorce, since she will never come through on the reconciliation, at least not at this point. Maybe after a few of life's lessons she will change her mind. And then again, maybe not. But at least you will be free to move on in your life too.
