Finally realised that he is having an A!!

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It is definitely an EA at least. This has been going on for about 2 years as they used to work together. As for being a PA - I dont know. My S7 said that yesterday that he saw my H put his arm around the OW. Dont want to read into this though.

I did try already through a L letter that she be kept away from my kids but it didnt work. Unfortunately unless she is doing something terrible, e.g. physically abusive I cant stop them. (I have checked.)

My S7 doesnt like her, but behaves around them. My S10 says he doesnt mind her - just doesnt like her around so much. I think he is trying to protect my H as they are finally getting on.

I intend to now go completely dark. NC, at all.

As for leverage I had agreed to mediation, but have decided this really wont be in my best interests. We will be negotiating through our Ls. I know that this is something that my H doesnt want to do, however I am not prepared to discuss anything with him as I cant trust him.

The last thing I could do - and I am not sure if this is a good thing - is turn my kids against her. I dont trust her anyway and I am a little worried about her. Last year she followed my kids and I around our supermarket. I told my H but he didnt believe me. I also notice she tried to look me up on Friends United, again I tried to tell H but he wouldnt listen. I do have proof of this, should I give it to him.

Up until this point I have tried for my kids sake to be amicable, but it has gotten me nowwhere except a kick in the teeth.