"So what are we mortals to infer from this profound observation?"
"I am at work, just talked to H. He is coming back tomorrow. I am not surprised to say that I am much much calmer since he left and that I wish things were simpler between us because it burdens me with stress."
"I have built this protective wall around me with hurt, anger and failed expectations and when he is around, my senses are on red alert all the time. I cant even begin to tell you how frustrating and tiring that is."
So already.. She knows that things are "different". Yet she just keeps on. To a point.. this is "more of the same".
"He sounds...flat. Not very excited about coming home but he misses the kids."
How would you "react" to someone that has a wall up? You want to be there.. but not really? This is most likely what caused all this in the first place.
"I know neither of us is in love."
Strong statement. Here I was being a DAM and thinking Kalni was doing all this cause she still loved that DAM. Silly me.
"I am only going to try to communicate my thoughts and needs in a better non threatening way."
Many times I have heard this.
"The fact is we could turn this around if we BOTH do our part of the job. I have to accept that the way he is doing or can do his job is not my way. But that should not be my focus."
Confusing statement.
"I have to accept that the way he is doing or can do his job is not my way."
This is your mission.. if you choose to accept it. If that moves you closer to the "goal" then you "Do" it.
"She used the sex card alot."
Sound familiar. What are you looking for? Did it work?
"I am not saying things are great, or even good, but things are better. For me at least. I am doing my best and it is very soothing."
So what does that tell you?
"I dont know if he is really DONE with her."
In the end.. who cares?
He clearly is not DONE with you either.
I have faith the best woman will win.
Mere Mortals!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
