Went snowboarding today with an old friend from HS. We have met up here in VT a couple of times over the years. Connected now because I found him on Match! Pretty funny, I emailed him and we are acting as "match" buddies--advice on profiles, pics, how to go on dates, etc. He is totally looking for a woman to have a family with, so there's no R interest for either of us--just a very funny coincidence to re-meet and hang out this way.
Plan for town meeting: K will totally go with me as my "beard." He's into it. Another girlfriend will also go. This is actually better than my first plan, which was (in a panic) to go surrounded by like 52 friends, very few of whom actually LIVE in my town and would have no reason to go to my town meeting. THAT would reek of desperation!
And I have to ponder the possibility that K and I could have a "benefits" R, perhaps. When we first met, some 20 odd years ago (how is that possible!) I for sure thought there was some chemistry. We'll see.
It will be tough.
Today was my "deadline" from X to respond to his offer (I call it an ultimatum) to buy me out. With my lawyer I worked out a response: "will let you know early this week" so I could get thru town meeting without that battle having started.
The start of each month is tough...every 1st is another month since the bomb. Now we are in month 8. Of course, then I think it is one more month since X and gf are together--I bet she is counting the days til they reach one year!!!
Cutter once advised me to call her OW, not gf, and I did for a long time. But if I am to accept that my R with X is over...she is not The Other Woman. She is His Woman. His Girlfriend. Sig Other. Love of his Life. His Reason for Being. Whatever.
Whoops, getting upset here. Will stop now, maybe do some The Work.
