Not really piecing and trying not to jinx it, but

[Freckle6]

H is dropping lots of, I don't know if hints is the right word, but bringing up moving back here a lot this last week. But not in an straight forward way either, so it catches me off guard.

We got hammered this week with snow. 2 1/2 feet in 2 days and as a result, my mailbox was buried in snowbanks from the plows. He told me Friday that when he brought S back Saturday that he'd snowblow the mailbox out for me. He said he missed snowblowing--another thing he didn't like doing before.

He's said also how he misses cutting and splitting firewood. He disliked doing it before. I know some H, even when separated, continued to do a lot household stuff for the W, but H never, ever did. I would have chewed off my own ear before asking him for anything like that and he never offered. For almost 5 years I've mowed the lawn (3/4 acre with riding and push mowing), weed eating, snowblowing the driveway, etc.--and up until recently all those things had to be done when S was asleep and I had a baby monitor tied to me because I couldn't do them with him awake. Still, he never offered to help with those things.

He also talked lots about remodeling the kitchen, taking down walls, etc. also redoing the basement. His idea is to take the money I'm supposed to pay him by the end of next year for his buyout and for him to put that back into the house. As it is, I'll have to pull that money out of my @ss, but I can't help but wonder what that all would mean as far as ownership and whatnot--especially since we're not married anymore.

Then tonight he tells me he spent the day helping a friend move and then said that this is a good thing because now this friend owes him. The whole conversation was strange. I asked what the friend had that he wanted to collect on for this favor and H said maybe help moving someday. He said you probably don't care, but that he feels like he has a big favor in his pocket now. I told him that it was a nice thing to do and he said he hopes to get that favor back.

I then said that it sounded like he was moving somewhere soon and asked if he was going into hiding. I think I upset him with that because he said, "I guess not..." I didn't really know what else to say!

We then talked about other stuff and he was fine--not mad or anything, but I feel like he might be fishing for something and I don't really know how to respond to all this. The one DB rule I rock at is no R talk. I'm like the best no R talker around because I really live by not asking questions where the answers might not be what you want. Unfortunately, I think that's morphed into screaming and running away from all possible R talk, even when initiated by the other person.