Nicole, how do you feel about being there for him and allowing him full access to you, your home and your life while he is having an affair with another woman?

I ask because I remember feeling totally conflicted when I was told by my DB coach to ignore the affair and be his friend. That approach left me miserable and shattered my self-esteem (what was left after learning about the affair). And it didn't do anything to end my BF's affair.

I highly recommend reading this thread on the The Gandhi Approach.

And as Puppy likes to point out, cheating spouses usually confess to one level lower to what they've actually done. If your H has admitted to an EA it is most likely a PA as well. If you continue to have sex with him (which I do not recommend) then please insist on using protection.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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