He doesn't want me to move in until around the end of April. (Assuming we decide for sure to get back together.) I am sure that the roommate should easily be able to find a new place by then.

So, it wasn't even a thing of "oh crap, moving is hard!" He said that figuring out where to put my stuff, etc is "easy" compared to figuring out if we are "getting back together for the right reasons". I guess having your kids fall apart, your job disappear and a wife that would actually take you back and be your partner after the years of limbo just isn't enough of a reason.

Tomorrow, I go to court with him for his continued DUI fight; then we go to the intervention specialist to formulate a plan on how to intervene effectively with Daughter. Friday we go to the MS specialist for Son to consult about him taking the drug that has a side effect of death. Hopefully, somewhere in between, we get a rehab center lined up and find my daughter to offer her that option.

I am just so disappointed because when he was expressing how bad he felt that he hadn't lead our family and had just walked away...and how lucky he was to have me...and then this....it's just so disappointing to have him do this to me again. I got kind of in his face and said "You said you thought that was your bolt of lightning! NOW what do you need to be the bolt of lightning!?" He was like "I don't need another one..I don't know."

Wow, Lotus, I'm sorta surprised that you're speechless...


Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing