Calling out the Piecers

[GH31]

I woke (x)W up this morning after my shower as requested by her, but it was apparently a bit on the late side for her and she was mad. Sooooo, I woke S11 up and told him to please find his own clothes and stay out of mom's way because she's mad that I let her sleep in after I had kept her up all night. S11's response? "No, she didn't sleep all night because she went out with [catalyst friend]".

So when (x)W was up and moving about and came to get her cup of coffee, I casually with no attitude or anything asked her 'when did you go out with [catalyst friend]?'. (x)W explodes and goes on the defensive saying that she told me she was "going out" but didn't go out and jsut sat out in front in [catalyst's friend's] truck for about an hour.

This is alarming. This is shades of her behavior before the A was exposed. She knows that if you don't wake me up just right, you could tell me the house is on fire and I'll simply say "ok honey, thanks" and go right back to sleep as I'm not really awake. She claims she told me when she 'woke me up' that she was going to hang out for a a little bit.

Lies, lies, lies, lies, lies, lies, lies.

She later apologized saying that if I hadn't yelled at her about it, she wouldn't have exploded. I said I didn't yell, and especially on the subject at hand, she'd KNOW when I'm yelling.

Why blow up about it? Why be so defensive of something that is supposed to be nothing?

Control, control, control, control, control.

Let's face it, who's in a good mood when they're busted lying through their teeth?

I asked her that very question and all she could say was if I hadn't "yelled at her" (which I didn't at all), she wouldn't be.

Blame shifting and avoidance of all responsibility.

I'm pretty nerved right now.

I understand completely and would be pretty riled myself.

Check out this wonderful thread by Coach on boundaries and be strong.

Sorry that you've had to deal with this mate.