I just read your entire thread, and I am so happy for you!
These WAW's are real pieces of work, aren't they? I always love the part where they drag out all of their "unhappiness" to beat the LBS over the head with, just so they can use that as an excuse when they decide they want to bang some OP. It is just so interesting to me that the only antidote for "unhappiness" is some other guy's penis.
And here you were, telling us that you were the biggest @sshole in the world during your marriage (which I highly doubt, by the way) and you were married to an addict. How lovely for your son to have to witness Mom's ridiculous behavior.
I hope you ran like the wind to a good D atty. You deserve so much better, and I hope you hook up with that nice lady you told us about. You know, the one your w went batsh!t over?