Spouse Suffering From Depression

[awest1217]

Lucky, you really need to decide how long you are willing to wait. I am not saying this is completely true, but it is starting to seem that H does love you and wants to stay married, but he doesn't want any of the responsibility. He likes that he can be a "bachelor husband". I know you want to wait until after his surgery to do anything, which I respect, but you really need to do some thinking about when you feel you have done enough and you feel ready to say I am done. If H doesn't want to get back together until he is "successful" in his eyes...that could be years like you said, and do you want to wait years to have a real family? You deserve more, and I am sure although your parents are helpful, you might want to get back out on your own at some point. H is really making some small progress, but are you willing to wait another 4 or 5 years for him? If you are great! Do that and find ways to keep yourself strong, and if not, think about when you feel enough is enough. Not a date, but a situation or something because you have had at least one guy express interest in you. I am sure there is more out there and you deserve someone whether it is H or someone else who will treat you better than you are being treated.