When I first came here to the board, I remember using the word "boring" as one of my adjectives for my MR. However, I did not describe it correctly. The truth was that "stress".....terrible, terrible stress year after year had finally taken its toll on me. I did not explain what we had been through b/c frankly....I didn't think anyone cared, or if anyone would believe it.
I just wanted to tell you that what you two have been through is enough to cause a person to want to "escape" from their reality and find some sort of fantasy world. That's no excuse for an A, but it happens. It happen to me (an EA) but I am proof that the M can be restored. Don't give up. It's hard, and it takes a long time....but if that is what you want, then don't give up. You have to learn what works.....not what feels right, or what you "think" should work, but what really, really works. Listen to the advise you will receive.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
