At a hockey game I went through my whole situation with a coworker and I spent much of the time just detailing all the bouts of depression in W's life. In my case, I married someone with significant emotional damage that eventually overwhelmed anything I was trying to do to help.
Another friend told me she's been divorced six years now and is completely over all the old feelings.
I can't imagine that either, but I'm better today than I was 10 months ago.
I guess you can try focusing on far you've already come instead of how far you have to go.
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