Sandi. I can't help but wonder what, if amything, today meant. Was it my W showing early signs of softening or was she just being nice?
She was simply being nice. If you had brought up the subject of the R.....she would have turned in a second. You saw how she reacted just at the offer to bring the dogs. The least push and she would not have stayed even as long as she did. Did you notice that she didn't want to walk the dogs, but she said she would be back later to get more of her things? Unless she couldn't carry more at the time, I'd think she was beginning to feel uncomfortable and didn't want to risk any more time....afraid you'd pursue.
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Sandi, my question is if you think it's appropriate to say this to my W now or wait a while first, especially since right now we are in the stressful process of discussing financial issues. So I don't know if it might be better say this to W now or wait until after my W and I finish discussing our financial issues?
If there was OM...yes I would certainly say so, but if there is no OM/Affair, then why would it make any sense to say that?
You should always have boundaries....but it doesn't mean there is OM/affair involved. Even with coworkers, family, friends, etc., you have boundaries. You have to make it fit the situation. In your stitch with your W, you just have to make sure she does not disrespect you. It is hard when the WAW has moved out and the S/D is in progress. There are no children and there is no OP involved......you are dividing everything, so I'm not sure what you are really asking me.....other than if you should quote what Puppy said. Again, that was directed to a person in a stitch with an A involved.
I think today, you are feeling like grabbing at straws. The reason I say this is first you were praying for a sign. I don't really believe in signs b/c we can read anything to be a "sign". I could add a lot more to that subject, but no need. Anyway, your hopes soared b/c the time with your W was pretty good and therefore you are seeking to find something that will work in your favor......like maybe a "boundary".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
