Well today has been no different from the last 3 Sundays...my H sleeping on the sofa, me upstairs trying to get to sleep but failing. And then staying in my bedroom because i assume he doesn't want me around. A silly cycle but im not sure how to break the habit now.

Oh but the big difference this weekend was our oven set on fire! I'd put it out but not before i'd already called the fire brigade. I said it was out but the operator said she had to send someone to check it out. Well drama, not one but two trucks turned up and my children were beside themselves to see 2 trucks flashing blue lights outside our house!! Of course i was mortified...and apologised profusely.

My H text from his journey back to Belgium to see if i needed a new oven!

Anyway from what my MIL has said, he text her to say he's been trying to be ok at the weekends but somethings changed. She has no idea what he meant but I'm thinking he has neared the end of the road and wants to leave the home.

I will be devastated that my stupid actions have brought us to this place.
Can anyone advise me on how to proceed. Please.


me 41
H 40
D 10
S 13
S 15
separated in same house 05/09
my A 05-07/09