Sorry MIcrazy, I got sidetracked by what the others were saying before I said anything to you.
You have a very serious stitch, as you know, and you need to be sure of what "you" want before you act. Have all your facts down and get all the information/advice here or from the DB Coaches. As frustrated as I get at the times LBH's can drag around and not do anything....OTOH,it really is upsetting to see anyone act before they really know what they are doing.
You not only have a W who has been unfaithful, but she is seriously addicted. If this is not dealt with like an addiction, then nobody wins.
Protect your children, youRself and your finances....ASAP. Once she thinks she's been exposed, she may take everything she can and run.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
