You did good! The only small sign of pursuing was when you offered to bring the dogs for her to walk. And, you saw how she reacted to that. I think it was b/c she was afraid you were using the dogs as a tool to get closer to her. It will take a lot of time for her to be able to overcome whatever her trust issues are.

You did make a move in the right direction (for her trust) in telling her where you will be living. Some may disagree and say that she lost that right, but I see no purpose of keeping it a secret. What would be the point other than just trying to put a wider wedge between you. Anyway, I think you felt good b/c you were able to stay away from pursuing & R talks....plus you did what you knew was the right thing to do with the dishes, etc.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!