BTW...I am in favor of contacting the OP/OP's spouse...My H's xOW was seperated but I did confront her and guess what...that whole affair fizzled out pretty fast after that...
Now, that being said, H did not come running back home...that is when the work on me started...I made my changes...GAL, spent more time with my kids and became the person I wanted to be...even though H said he would never ever ever be able to live with me again, or love me as a wife...well lets just say in a fewe weeks we are going to the Carribean for our 30th anniversary!
Finally...be prepared to be patient...all of this takes time...the mess didn't just happen...it is a progression of going down hill...we all know going up hill takes a little longer...so the time it took to get where you are, expect it to take longer to get where you want to be...with or without your W!
