We had a "family" dinner for one of my boy's birthday last night as well as last Sat night for another one of the boys. (They were all born within 30 days of each other)
Wow! That must have been one for the books!
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The other thing I guess thats moot is why in the hell she doesn't just admit it was an affair and why she doesn't realize how rediculous it sounds to continually refer to it as a "relationship" and to deny that she had an affair? Any women have some insight for me on this.
Why are you making those "words" so important to you? You know what the truth is, and you need to accept the fact that she may never say what you want to hear from her mouth.
Seriously, I know why it bothers you. But she is using this word "relationship" like you would put daises around a pigsty hoping to decorate it up so it won't look so bad. It's silly b/c everyone knows it's a pigsty no matter how you try to dress it up.
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Then I screamed at her that she had the affair--not me. She screamed back I didn't have an affair and I said "you need to understand something--an affair is a lot more than someone sticking their crank in you" and she got quiet for a sec.
This gets you nowhere with her. You have to reach the place that you can show her that it no longer bothers you. When you react like you did here....she sees a scared, angry, & insecure man. That is not attractive to anyone and it doesn't teach your sons how to be a man in tough situations where women are concerned.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
