Originally Posted By: mb28

I'm confused and lost


That's the time to get a family therapist's help.. a GOOD professional.. they HELP people who are confused and lost get back on track.

Originally Posted By: mb28

I don't think it will work


I think we are both feeling too sad right now to make that decision... we need HELP from someone who CAN think for us

Originally Posted By: mb28

We can't come back from this


I am willing to... But I am too sad right now to repair anything, I need someone to help me think... I want to be a better mother and a wife... But we need to see a professional... separate sessions with the same FT who puts our FAMILY FIRST and will NOT tell us to leave unless there is NO way she can fix anything.

Originally Posted By: mb28

What will it take for you to be done


100% Commitment from you to END contact with OW and work with a Family Therapist first... for six months.. if that doens't work, then I will explore other options, but our CHILDREN are at STAKE here, until we make a commitment to each other for them ANYTHING else is cruel to each other and these kids. ANYONE telling EITHER of us to leave the other is NOT being kind to US or to our CHILDREN

My friend's think I should give UP on you, but i love my kids and my family and I WILL TRY to save that If I can... I will try til it hurts.

Originally Posted By: mb28

If there was a way to fix this I would do it


Good, then lets find a GOOD family therapist we both like and find out how... WE aren't experts in healing marriages.. so lets talk to people who fix marriages every day...

These are drafts, puppy and others may have comments too... I am just writing off the cuff here so you have something.

Let me work on thse a bit more.. I want to see what others say too