K,

You have alot on your plate and the added commute can really wear you down.

I'm sorry your D's are having a tough time right now. Having to keep an eye and ear open esp if you have one (or more) that doesn't talk is hard. If they are willing to talk to a C that's great. If not, I'm sure you will find your own path and be able to help them with theirs.

HUGS