Yes, they forgot too. We weren't home long enough for them to think about it on my bday, so they just forgot.
Another thing I remembered that my H always says to me:
I have felt so unloved the last 4 years - I agree with him on this one, he has always been the emotional one in our R. Always doing and saying nice things for me. Me not so much I am afraid. I think I always expected him to do this, and I rarely initiated any sort of romance. In fact there was few times he had done something nice for me, and I came back with a snide joke, that hurt his feelings. An example: we were going to Jamaica for a friend’s wedding and he had asked me if I wanted to renew our vows (I thought he was joking) I said, "Why would I want to make that mistake again". I immediately realized that he wasn't joking and apologized a ton, and told him I didn't really mean it. That is just one example of many. That is why doing the NC is so hard for me.
I think he has always considered me kind of cold in the M. So a 180 for me would be to be really nice and sweet to him. But I know this doesn’t work with an A going on. However, I believe that is what he is getting from the OW. She is probably asking him how his day went, and stuff like that. Does any of this change my approach?
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
