Thanks for the reminder Lea. Every once in a while I internally freak out and desperately look for something solid to cling onto.
Originally Posted By: lea74
Our biggest mistake was going to fast. My S10 said to me just before his first visit, 'But mom we have only just found about this, it is too soon.' I just keep remembering those words everytime I make a decision.
Also a good reminder. I am very aware of this as it all feels so sudden to me. My kids are showing stress and distress, and they haven't even had to deal with custody arrangements yet (H has been in our home a lot following many of the normal routines and there's only been one overnight). H is very impatient and tends to be very fast to implement his plans. I'm guessing that he's deliberately putting on the brakes for the good of the children, but his impatience will probably be breaking through soon.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
