Allen,
Again thanks for all your advice. I will talk to my friend again about talking with my H. However, when I asked her a few days ago, she didn't seem interasted anymore in helping him or even talking to him. She is angry at the way he is treating me.

Next time I have convo with my H, I will mention a FT approach and see what he says. Other then that is there anything else I should say to him when he says all those things to me? Do I just validate and not get emotional and not try to argue any of his points?


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10