The above quotes show confusion. Which is more of a MLC trait than a WAS. I have followed some of your sich and I know your H has had an A, of course if this is a MLC this is not unusual. I do not really like to jump in between WAS or MLC so if you think I am way off base that is fine.
Oldpilot, ALL spouses in MLC are WAYWARD. That's part of the MLC is a drive to STRAY and DISTANCE themselves.
Diagonising the MLC further isn't a solution, its part of the problem.
This H NEEDS positive marriage-friendly influences around him, and the only person he is exposting himself to all that much is prompting him to leave. THAT needs to be combatted, not MLC.
TELLING a spouse they are in MLC does NOT improve things, it makes them worse.
Not sure where you were giong with the MLC, but I wanted to make sure MB28 doens't try to tell her H about it, its NOT going to help...
I am not pro-MLC exposure, I have never found it effective... its just a mood disorder and telling your spouse they have a mood disorder is almost NEVER received well... people don't like to be psychoanalyzed by their family and freinds... unless its good news.
