I thought what you wrote was excellent. My W and I are also separated and have been so for 4 months. If you want more info of my sitch please read my thread if you would like...link is in my sig.
I would like to say something very similar of your advice to GHM and use it in my sitch to my W. My question for you is if you think it's appropriate to say this to my W now or wait a while first. Right now we are in the stressful process of discussing financial issues. So I don't know if it might be better to wait to say your advice to my W now or wait until after my W and I finish discussing our financial issues.
The only thing I might take out from your advice is the part about OM as I still have not seen this in my sitch. So I don't think it would be wise to accuse her of something for which I have no proof and may not be happening. If you look at my last few posts in my sitch you can see my W has a lot of anger and trust issues with me right now...not exaclty sure why but I"m not sure if I should tread lightly on some issues for now?
Thanks for you time. mza8
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch
