Yes, I do have a good, steady job here in Michigan, and If I leave, yes it would be heard to get bck together (tho' she visists NYC frequently).
I've been applying for jobs there for the last couple of years, a) b/c the pay here isn't great, b) I miss the city where we had so much fun and many friends, c) I need to get back to 'me'
Yes, I was still angry/hurt and could NOT let it go, though I tried and tried. I hadn't read DB, but we went to MC (wife was always angry felt ganged-up on), and my IC didn't really help me in learning how to forgive. THAT was the poison that has us here now. I'm not blaming myself entirely, b/c WAW wife called OM just a couple of weeks ago (after I went to bed and she'd had some wine), and they had a long email exchange three months ago as weel about 'what happened, why, can't they still be friends'... THey still work together on the same floor, so you maybe can imagine how it's hard to let go when there are still threads of contact.
It's like ripping the scab off everyday.
Eternal optimist
LBS (me):48 WAW:44 Married:11 T: 16 Separated: 02/10/10 Separated: one year first time, two years ago Sitch: http://bit.ly/baqySm
