RU is right, you ARE a rock, standing strong in a very deep stream..but you're not getting washed away, and that is what's important.
There aren't that many people who can stand, and keep going...this is really hard to do in the face of all you're enduring.
A better day will come; it always does, and you'll be fine.
Your husband won't, though, he'll have lost everything, and he won't even see it; not right this minute; but he will.
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Its been a rough two weeks with the new commute. When things wear me out I tend to think of H with some resentment..that he's doing nothing financially or emotionally for his daughters..yet going after my financial assets and child sport via the divorce.
It's normal to think of your husband with resentment; you've worked hard for what you have; and you just want to hide everything you've got in a really deep hole so he can't find it. And you'd do it if you could get away with it. Unrealistic, I know, but that's how you feel.
Look at your pity parties as something that blows the stress off you for now..this is also normal.
I feel for your daughter; puberty is a rough thing for a teen to have to deal to begin with, and coupled with her dad in MLC; it makes things even rougher on her. At least you're there to talk to her when she needs you, and she knows that.
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With the divorce stuff that is going on I just feel like he is two-faced and feeling entitled. I think its fear causing his about-face on wanting money/assets from me, but I still feel deceived. He always said that he didn't want 'stuff' from me, that he needed to stand on is own two feet..blah blah blah. His talk isn't matching the lawyer's 'walk'.
You've got him pegged. He's both and a whole lot more; ought to be ashamed of himself for stealing from the kids' college fund, and you KNOW he's the force behind his lawyer, though I can guarantee you he's saying the lawyer's doing this and that; and your husband has NOTHING to do with it; so he SAYS(Liar, liar, pants on fire). We know the lawyer only does what his client pays him to do. So, your husband's REALLY not fooling anyone..he just thinks he is. Funny, how they think the LBS doesn't see through them.
The behavior of saying one thing and doing another is one of the hallmarks of MLC. You can never listen to what they say; just watch what they do.
Hang in there, K; I'm hoping things will work out all right; just make sure you're protecting yourself as much as you can financially, that's all you can do..and I know you're doing the best you can.
Remember, you ARE The Rock, standing strong, no matter what you say.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
