Welcome to the place nobody wants to be. But this is a great place. Sorry you have to be here. There are many wonderful people here and you will get some great advice. I would start out asking you if you have read MWD's books. DB and DR. As a minumum I would read the DR book. It is the basis of everything we do. After you read that there are great resources to read.
If you read this thread the fourth post down has some links.
I would start with the detach link. Although from what you described so far there does not seem to be any wild behavior. That is good. However try not to have any R talks with your H.
You need to take this time to start to work on you. GAL. Do something fun.
There are no quick fixes here. This is a long process.
