Thank you for your feedback. At first, things were going well. My husband was being rather nice and we were enjoying eachothers company. He then told me that his landlord asked him about extending his lease and then he dropped the bomb.
He asked to extend his lease another 3 months to get her out of his system and figure out what he wants. I was kind of shocked that he was still seeing her. Thought he was taking this time of separation to get his act together. I obviously declined. Cake eating at it's worst!!!!
He said the ball was in my court. I told him no and that in our divorce.. I want to file as adultery. He does not want me to obtain a lawyer.. he is a lawyer and doesnt think it is necessary. I am not sure why.. but it is important to me that her name be on my divorce papers. I have been so cooperative throughout all of this.. this is the one thing that is important to me. He got annoyed about it.. nothing new.
He then said that he was going to take the month to think things over and make a decision. He was sorry for asking for 3 additional months. I am beside myself. Do I just go ahead and file? I asked him to meet with me on Monday to put my name on our savings account. His name is not on mine.. but I always paid the bills and our savings are in his account. I just dont know if I can deal with him..would rather deal with him through an attorney. And of course i cannot trust him. He responded with "I am not going to steal from you". He already has by spending money on another woman.
I don't want to make this a messy situation but I also don't want to get taken advantage of. I am meeting him Monday morning to get my name on our account....then going dark. Please some words of wisdom.... how do I go completely dark???? i am not a natural game player...this is going to be hard.
