quietly watching....need help

[gardengirl72]

N8, thanks for the reply.

Nephew took SECOND at State in division 1 tonight!! He lost to an undefeated Senior...he's a Sophomore! It was a very good match. He was fine with it...he was happy to be on the podium!
And I have Riley (the dog)...it's a good night!

H didn't go to the meet last night...said he didn't think he would be able to get tickets. My sister talked to the friend who had called H on Thurs. and he wanted to know what was up with H. H had called him (on Fri.) and asked if he could get tickets and stay over night at his house! This is someone H has probably talked to maybe 10 to 15 times ALL year! H would never ask to stay at anyone's house, let alone someone he wasn't very close to. I have no idea what that was about. I don't know why H wouldn't stay at OW house (except she doesn't like dogs).

H does know that my brother-in-law and that friend are friends...so maybe H was thinking the friend would tell my brother-in-law and I would say something?? I didn't! My sister did tell the friend it was H's idea to leave not mine. He said he noticed a change in him too. He said he tried to tell him it's a lonely life by yourself...H just said we don't get along anymore and life is too short. (that might have something to do with the OW).

I did however, tell H Riley could stay here for a few days. I thought it would be better for her here than in the truck...H agreed, but, he didn't want to put me out...I told him I didn't keep her before because I had already made plans for the week. I did not say anything about him staying here...thought if H would want to, he would say something...he didn't. I didn't want to give him the satisfaction of saying no to me!!

I wasn't here when he dropped Riley off. I left a budget of our bills and money H would get for the month on the counter...thought H would say something about it but didn't. H just wrote a note saying thank you and he will see me on Tuesday.

I really don't think H is ever going to change his mind about being married...he has everything he wants up north...the cabin, the land, the boat, the 4-wheeler, the tractor, and me here, 150 miles away, plus no expense of a DIVORCE. H has already told me he would not divorce me...I would have to be the one to do it. And really why would he???

I do feel a little sad H didn't ask to stay here...really makes it final!

Thanks again for listening, gg