Sexual abuse history can obviously complicate a desire to be physically dominated.
That's an excuse that's convenient for you to exuse the difficulties yo have in your relationship. There is a very big difference between a man who is sexually confident and loves you - than a misogynst, dysfunctional abuser.
Gosh, you really think there is anybody posting here who doesn't understand that??? I must be misunderstanding your comment, but that's what it seems to say!
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It also demonstrates that you don't understand the difference between being sexually dominant in a mature, mutually signficant sexual relationship and being "dominant" in a whip me, beat me, love me context. Huge difference my friend, huge diference - and all women, abused or not, can tell the difference.
I'm sure I'm misunderstanding what you wrote, otherwise it demonstrates that you know nothing about sexual abuse. I can't imagine there is anyone intelligent enough to post here who doesn't understand that there's a difference between cognitively understanding something, and an irrational fear. The fact that I know I'm safe standing in the observation area of the tallest skyscraper doesn't mean I don't feel an irrational fear that keeps me from walking close to the window to look down at streets 2,000 feet below.
And what do you mean by "being 'dominant' in a whip me, beat me, love me context"? Do you mean a consensual, loving, BDSM relationship, or an abusive one where the woman is beaten against her will, stays with the man because at other times he "loves" her? I would have to assume the latter, but your wording isn't clear.
You also seem to say that being sexually abused is no excuse for a sexless relationship? Are you saying that the effects of sexual abuse are just made up?
I have to assume I misunderstood everything you wrote.
