Puppy, I do agree with you. I did already know this and have the choice to make; Accept my W's offer to quit college and so avoid the OM. This would in the long term cause the problem of taking away one of her dreams and her opportunity to do something for herself.
WRONG! You would be FIGHTING for her, and allowing her to learn to live with the CONSEQUENCES of her own poor decisions and choices.
BIG difference.
If I tell my child that "if you are not in bed with lights-out by 9 o'clock, then you will lose video games for tomorrow," and I enforce that, did I "take away" their video games, or did their own choice to violate the rule (boundary) cause the consequences to kick in??
