Also Young...you said: "While a discussion on alpha males in the bedroom might be fine for other forums like newcomers, piecing it together, 180's, etc., it seems a bit much in the SSM area to me. I may be wrong in that, but that is how I saw it."
I don't know if you've read some of my much older posts (going back 2 years ago or so)...but I've written about and encouraged others to write about some very VERY sexual and somewhat taboo subjects. I've had posts called "stripping for your mate" and "DQ's sex blog". I've discussed everything from female ejaculation to bondage/BDSM to gay/lesbian sex to group sex....and even a few things weirder than those. ;0)
Here's my deal....I am a very sexual person and I used to be in a SSM. I was sex starved, but I now know that I am actually very HD. I like talking about the nuts and bolts of sex, without talking "dirty". I want to be able to discuss rationally very sexual and sensual subjects, without trying to turn it into erotica or turn anyone on. I enjoy open, frank discussion on the topic of sex, which is a very large part of my life, with intelligent, well-written adults.
I feel like I've found that group of intelligent, well-written adults here on this forum, and along with that, many of my favorite posters have also been very sexual and also eager to discuss deep, dark secrets and topics with other intelligent people, in a way that does not elicit sexual arousal. Silly, Bagheera, Lucky Girl, and Cinco, were all really great conversationalists along with me for quite a long time on this forum...and our talking about more than just being sex starved, in fact talking about "what happens when/if you finally are NOT sex starved", was a happy and enjoyable exercise for me (and I believe for them, too). Most of them are not posting very often now or have totally disappeared. And so I admit, I feel kind of adrift alone out here on this forum...I can easily see where you (or others) may think "wth is she bringing up a GREAT sex life for, when others here are trying to have ANY sex life? What point is there in that?" I do get your POV on this.
But I will say to you as I have said on many of my older threads...I used to be in YOUR shoes. I wanted and needed an outlet to discuss very frankly and openly my sexual thoughts and feelings, and if I had had a place to do that back when I was in an SSM, I would have been better off for it. I wanted and needed mentors who had found their way OUT of my position. I wanted and needed to believe there were people out there who had the type of sex life I wanted, without being unfaithful to get it.
So now... I AM that person, and I do want to help others believe that a great sex life can be attained and can exist...that it must be sought after with a vengence if it is that high of a priority to you, and how to avoid the mistakes I made in trying to get here.
Again, I'm sorry I had you confused with someone who had already tried all the methods you are now trying. You DO have a chance at getting the life you want. You ARE capable of getting that life. Hold tight to your NEEDS and hopefully, they will lead you to their own fulfillment. I am sorry to hear your POV about this thread but I do respect it...at the same time...I respectfully ask you to see it a little differently. I want to be a beacon of hope, and I want to discuss honestly and openly but NOT erotically, items that affect the sex lives of ourselves and many of those around us. If you want join me in the discussions, I welcome you. If not, I respect that.
