Young...I must apologize, as I may have had you confused with another poster.
You said: "I do think that I have another option besides resigning myself to near celibacy or divorce. That option or hope is to communicate my needs, get help from therapists for my wife and myself as a couple, work on GAL, and making her feel loved as best I can, while being very clear about my trying to decide on ending the marriage or not. So far it has been very hard, but I am seeing some change and have hope for the future. The considerate/consulting lover is required to build the trust of my wife, it is not begging for sex or to me a sign of weakness, just one of learning how to not violate a delicate trust as my wife attempts to open up to me. I am sure, for my goals to be reached, it will require huge change on the part of my wife and a statement of how much she really loves me and trusts me to put herself through that much change."
And this is why I must apologize...is that I didn't realize you hadn't already tried and done all of these things. I may have confused your story with someone else's. If you HAD already done and tried all of these things and still not gotten ANY improvement, THEN and ONLY THEN would I say there may not be much other hope. But I am sorry for speaking out of turn...YES these things you are trying very probably will help your SSM.
