I have been thinking about this one all day off and on.
What I am trying to figure out is :
He said he was going to file to :
a. Provoke an argument to JUSTIFY filing b. Provoke emotional response to justify NOT filing
To be honest, given he's wayward and moody, very likely both.
I am wondering if maybe sending a text ONE WAY saying
"I don't WANT to file, don't you think its rude to file on your wife without even considering how she feels about it?"
OR
"Have you considered the thought that maybe your wife doesn't want to divorce?"
The fact that there has been a gap between the texts of almost a whole day ... it might catch him off guard.
MB28 have you EVER said OUTRIGHT
I do NOT want a DIVORCE ?
I am wondering about this one... a nudge from someone telling him that HIS feelings are NOT mutual might help... I get the distinct impression he thinks they are mutual.
But, he may have just been looking for an argument to get an emotional response from you and upset you.
You see, when YOU get upset, HE feels better because its an implicit "I Love You"
When he hears "Stop seeing her" or "Just go away you're hurting me" to him that is "I Love You"
He NEEDS to hear that... its a FIX for him...
But once he GETS that, he's happy again and goes back to cheating... its a tricky situation.
