Are there signs?

[koliver0821]

Awesome Post. Although my situation is different, the first steps are almost always the same. "Love me some me." I found my love for myself but only after I revisited my faith. IM not a deeply religious person but I realize I am very spiritual.

However, there is one thing you need to change in your above post. You dont want her to see you change. You want to see YOU change. If you know what it is that is ailing your R, then go about fixing it. In my sitch, I realized I wasn't do enough for me. I also wasnt doing enough for anybody. I was depressed and I saw no way out. Sadly, it took my wife asking for space and asking me to move out for me to see what I have become.

Im sure you will feel the same way once you get going. It also sounds like you made an important first step.