I met the OM in April 09 and we had a 10week relationship. I told my H 2wks after i met this OM the truth. He never moved out because he only came back at weekends, and i know it had to be very painful for him but at the time he showed no emotion as is his usual behaviour and i thought he simply didn't care. Of course this wasn't true but even now he refuses to discuss anything to do with our marriage. He has never wanted to confront issues in our marriage past and present. It is very hard to have a marriage in these circumstances. Issues need discussing or how else can they be resolved, and isn't that what a partnership is all about?
I do not see the OM, i have no desire to and i regret it with all my heart. I've told my h this and i also try to tell him what he means to me, i show remorse and i try to behave in the way i think he responds to. In effect i'm confused as to how or what he wants as he never tells me. Yesterday morning he came up and got into bed with me, and tonight he's sleeping on the sofa again. When i said make up his mind i was talking from a place of hurt. I feel used but i also relish the moments we spend together. I guess i just wish i could get inside his head to know what his thoughts are. Am i doing the right thing in allowing him to come and go from my bed with no word or hint of the future. He always makes it sound like we have no future, so why does he keep comomg to me for sex. And not love making in the real sense? This has been going on for 6mnths now. I'm completely worn out by it all and im sure he is too. Sorry another long post!
me 41 H 40 D 10 S 13 S 15 separated in same house 05/09 my A 05-07/09
