Why to rush to go to NYC? Do you have a job still in Michigan? If you leave, I'd agree it doesn't sound likely you'd be getting things back together. If you felt that you needed to cut off contact, that is pretty big.
If you had a great job offer there, I could see why you'd go. I'd gather she would as well. If you left without a strong pulling factor, I would wonder if that is like saying you gave up on the town she wanted you to come to, so maybe you're giving up on her.
By the way, you said "tried to reconcile". Does that mean you are still angry/hurt over that? If you are and you can't work it out with your IC or yourself, I wonder if you could get back together again without first getting past that.
