turns out my H isn't feeling well and we rescheduled. i told him i may be able to find some time sunday to catch up with him, but we'll see. i think he's overwhelmed with stress at work and also has to move out of the office he and his business partner set up because they can no longer afford it.
Congratulations on continuing to consider his side of things, while still planning your life around your own needs! If you hadn't, it would be sooo easy to make many false (or correct) but unhelpful assumptions about why he cancelled. Your offer being tentative also reminds him that he has chosen to have some distance, while being polite and encouraging.
TTA, do you think that his problems staying focused on the R is too much work for you to handle? I'm asking for my own sitch, because today my W was mentioning how she felt I didn't give her enough attention when she spoke, which made her feel I saw her ideas as a waste of time to hear. I guess what I'm trying to ask is that while there are pros to ADHD spouses, are the cons something you choose to deal with and then can, or is it more like a tolerance level that you think you are born with or not.
BTW - when do you leave for your trip to a rebuilding New Orleans?
