I just got back. And yes, xW ignored my request. She brought her greasy OM, and her mother to boot (the evil xMIL).
I ignored them and did my best to carry on as if they weren't there. It irks me that he's there skulking in the background the whole time, not entirely hanging back but off to the side like an obsequious slug.
I focused on the scouts and the other parents and the various heats to the races.
S9 didn't win this year, or even place, but he took it well enough. I just wish Jabba the Hut and the Wicked Witch of the East hadn't been there to taint the event. It would have been a good learning experience and a teachable moment had these interlopers not been there with xW to anxiously cart my S's off before I've had a chance to properly recap and underscore today's events with them.
Karen, few in our scout pack know my full story, so they wouldn't have known anything was amiss. At least my behavior should not have been a give-away to anything unusual going on. You see, unlike her, I have practiced the utmost in discretion, for her benefit as well as for my S's. Though I would have done so anyway, she demanded my discretion. And yet she has used that against me to slander my reputation with neighbors, family, friends, teachers, etc. She filled the vacuum of my discretion with her poison.
I guess given every incident since the bomb I should understand that xW will never respect me or my rights to parent our S's. I should not be surprised that she would ignore my serious, fervent request and would purposely interfere with my father-son relationship-building, especially if it also means parading her transgressions against me in public and rubbing it under my very nose.
I see the Parenting Coordinator on Thursday. I am curious to see if he will recognize that xW is purposely trying to encroach on my R with my S's with this latest offense. He'll either condemn her actions, or excuse them -- if the former, then it will remain to be seen what he proposes be done about it; if the latter, then I will know he lacks the moral judgement and the sincerity by which he professes to honestly support shared parenting.
If the PC sees nothing wrong and does nothing, then all I can say is xW has established a precedent for which she will come to regret. If she wants to horn in on my special times with my S's, I will return the favor, with gusto. Whenever there is any public event she tries to cordon off for her and OM with my S's -- sporting events, amusement parks, etc. -- she'll find me there as well.
