Try to remember he is their father as much as you are their mom.
I have not limited his access to them in any way. But IMO the children are the losers when they have to start shuttling between two homes. One of my children is only 3 years old, and my S6 is autistic. They are both have a history of being horrible sleepers. They need the consistency of a regular bedtime routine and a constant sleep environment. I could see one overnight a week becoming a pleasant routine for them but I think that more than that could become a stressor for them. At this point they are both visibly less happy than before the S and this is becoming obvious to people close to our family. I really don't think they need more changes right now.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
