H texted yesterday "I have an appt w/ L on Monday to file" and then again "My C said we are destructive to each other". I didn't respond )-:
Unfortunately your H can take whatever he wants from IC, and it sounds like he wants justification to D. And there's some truth to the destructive comment...your interactions have been really negative. I think it would take a saint to make the interactions positive on your side so I don't mean this as a 2x4. But if I were in your shoes I'd consider getting some DB phone coaching. You are getting some good advice and coaching in your thread, but it seems like you're having trouble with developing a code of conduct and sticking to it (and I would too in your sitch!!!). Just wondering if a coach could help you with that?
hugs to you...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
