Threadlock has always coincided with some change so I can't help but wonder what is changing.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
The "Last entanglement" is the house. X and I have struck a deal through which I will buy her out and take posession. She and OMH will build or buy something that better suits their needs. The house is literally one block from my workplace. Sweet
An appraisal has been ordered and I fear the house will not appraise as high as X expects, affecting how much cash she will recieve. A lot can still go wrong in this.
If it does happen the kids and I will be in the house and she will be the one on the outside, a perfect role reversal of my experience of the past three years.
Karma
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
Threadlock has always coincided with some change so I can't help but wonder what is changing
I think you answered your own question. Your moving back into your house. Seems like a pretty big change to me. Good luck with that, I hope it all works out for the best.
Do you think this will bring up difficult memories, too?
Maybe, maybe not. I've had plenty of difficult memnories come up on their own while I have lived in two apartments.
This isn't a done deal. X and I have already had a misunderstanding which resulted in some conflict this afternoon. I was ready to say to heck with it and in fact told her a couple of times to put it on the market.
She called back late this afternoon and we worked things out. As I told her no real estate deal is "done" until the papers are signed. This one is no different in that respect.
Only time will tell if this one happens.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
Both I and X and OMH have qualified for the necessary loans making it possible for me to buy her out and her and OMH to build a house of their own. The next step is the appraisal on the old homeplace. X has a dollar figure she "must have" for this deal to go through that is dependent upon the apprasial. If it all works it will mean our kids will stay in the house they have lived in for the past 5 years and no longer live in an apartment 50% of the time.
There are many other benefits of this going through to both of us that I have not the time to mention. If the appraisial falls short AND she is ridged we will all suffer. My fear is that she will be selfish and not see that truth.
Prayers will be greatly appreciated.
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"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
I too got to remain in my home after I bought ex out.
It has brought me peace and I have made new memories.
I hope this works for you
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Our kids could stay in their home and at their present schools.
I would be two blocks from my workplace.
The kids would still live six block from X's workplace.
The house is large enojgh that I could move my elderly (87) mother in with me and the kids, getting her out of a deteriorating neighborhood.
The kids love their "Na-Na" and they could be together the maximum time of what she has left.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
