I told my W how I felt about her, how beautiful she was, how lucky I was to be M'd to her. Sounds like a GREAT husband to me. In retrospect, not sure these meant anything to her, and, in fact, may have shown her weakness in me that she came to despise. But, it was how I felt. This sounds like HER problem to me. I can't imagine this as weakness. And I thought this was the one person on the Earth to whom I could tell all my thoughts, fears, dreams, successes and failures. This describes what I consider to be essential for a good marriage...go figure. .....I know this D has a LOT less to do with me than I first thought. I have addressed the things I needed to in me FOR me. And if that's not enough, SHE doesn't deserve me. You got it!